Update/Changes

It’s official, my blog has its own instagram, yay!

I never really planned it out this way, but I realized throughout the year that I would hold back on sharing.

I didn’t want to come off as annoying on my own personal instagram and Facebook page saying, “link in bio, link in bio, blah blah blah”.

I love blogging but I am sure some people on my friends list could care less about my blog because, well, they just can’t relate! Lol

I have the followers who love my blog posts and the other followers who just can’t relate, so creating a separate instagram dedicated to my blog feels like the best idea.

I love blogging and can’t wait to share more content with everyone!

Go follow my new Instagram page! @Lindabethwee

Thanks for reading!

xoxo

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The Next Chapter

We successfully bought and sold our first home!

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If you have been following my Instagram stories, then you already know we had posted our home for sell about 2 months ago. Well, one week later, we accepted a nice looking offer (over asking) and we couldn’t decline.

We had been living in this house for about two years and just needed a spontaneous change in our lives. There is a list of reasons why we sold, but unless I directly tell you why we did it, then I don’t think anyone will really understand.

Buying a home is one thing, but selling?!?!? Oh my goodness, let me tell you, I have so much respect for real estate agents because it is not easy. The past 2 months were stressful, confusing, and expensive!

We got so lucky with finding the right agent; he is trustworthy, honest, and always listened to us (I am sure he is happy to be done with us lol). He also helped us buy this home all the way from Alaska 2 years ago. If you are in the Sacramento/Roseville area and are looking for a good agent let me know!

If I can give any advice about buying property, it would be to; save as much money as you can before buying, and educate yourself as much as possible.

But even with being as prepared as we were, this was still a learning experience for us. I honestly cannot wait to buy and sell again.

In the end, I am sad, we have a lot of good memories here. But this was never meant to be a forever home, more like a investment opportunity to make a profit. And let me tell you, we are running to the bank pretty happy.

Buying property can be one of the best and fastest ways to make a lot of money. And we did so many upgrades to this house, it looks nothing like before we bought it. And those upgrades are what helped this house sell fast with a over asking offer.

Now, we are settled in our new home until our next pcs, who knows when we will move again, and who knows where we will move to next (oh military life).

I keep saying we got very lucky, because this is our first time ever purchasing, fixing, and selling a home, this could have been a expensive disaster! But everything worked out, and I am thanking Jesus!!!

Thank you for reading, if you have any questions or need any advice please let me know!

xoxo,

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A Decade of Love

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I am blown away with how fast 10 years just flew by.

Jack and I just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary this past week, and I still can’t believe it.

Looking back 10 years ago, we were just kids at ages 18 and 19 years old, thinking we knew what we were doing, but we had no idea.

We had to learn quickly, and we learned a lot from our mistakes (and we made A LOT of mistakes).

We also sacrificed a lot for each other to get to where we are at today. Wish I can share some stories but that would be a very long blog post lol.

But through it all, we had each others back, trying to better our quality of life together.

He is a great partner, and a amazing dad.

Jack would do anything for the girls and I, and I love him for that.

Sorry hon you are stuck with my over dramatic ass self forever. Let’s continue to live happily ever after, and be weird while doing that.

Love you.

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8 Money Saving Tips We Live By

I was inspired this morning by a friend of mine to write a quick blog post.

Believe it or not, I always have friends and family come up to me for financial advice all the time! It’s no secret that Jack and I are huge Dave Ramsey fans, we are pretty minimalistic, and that we take saving money very serious (we are bad for the economy lol).

Living off of one income and being a full time mom can be a challenge. We have two girls that need to go to college and they would need new cars, and we are going to retire one day and we will need to depend on our retirement savings for an extra 30-40 years (if we are lucky enough to live that long).

So I had the idea to share 8 of my best tips that we live by on the daily:

  1. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses.

It’s very easy to get influenced by social media these days. You are surrounded by people sharing the latests fashions, having the latest technologies, or sharing pics from their lavish vacations. And there is nothing wrong with that, if you can afford it. But if you can’t, please don’t try to compete or prove yourself to anyone. Statistics show that in our era today we have the most debt, the least saved in savings, and the least invested in retirement. It’s already a issue that we don’t make enough money to support our cost of living, so don’t get sucked into impulse buying because you see others doing it. At the end of the day, you’ll be sitting there with a empty bank account and a picture full of likes. And if any social media accounts make you feel a certain way, just hit the unfollow button, life is too short to worry about what others have and what you don’t have. Be thankful for what you do have, live below your means, it’ll be worth it I promise. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses, the Joneses are broke.

2. Avoid the credit cards!

I sound like a broken record when I tell people this, “NEVER OPEN A CREDIT CARD!” There are some exceptions to using a credit card like: real emergencies. But you should already have a savings account for emergencies as it is, so there is really no reason to have a credit card. People think it is normal to have credit card debt, but guess what, it is not. It has become the new norm for so many people, but those people are broke. If you want to be financially fit, this will be a good place to start.

3. It’s ok to say no.

I am a pro at saying no. And I have no shame in doing so. If friends ask you to go out to a movie, a concert, or dining out, it’s ok to say no. Don’t feel obligated to always say yes. I can’t express how many times as a teenager I came home with only $5 in my bank account wishing I didn’t go out with my friends. It is ok to say no no no! Your friends will understand, and if they don’t, you might need new friends 🙂

The other day Jack and I were having a discussion about something I don’t remember about what but it involved spending money, so I told him no! And he gave me the best compliment I could hear, he said, “I appreciate you because you really keep me on my feet” Sometimes Jack likes to drift away and forget about our budget, so I am glad he feels I keep him in line haha!

4. Skip the coffee runs.

Buying a $3-$5 coffee 7 days a week is such a money wasting habit. At least to me it is. If you really want to cut down on spending, this would be a big one. You are spending an average $20 to $40 a week on just a morning cup of Joe. You can invest in a Keurig, Nespresso, or a French coffee press and make your own cup of coffee in a reusable coffee mug on the go and save tons of money. Of course you’ll need the extra discipline to do so, but your pockets will look more happy.

5. Eating out.

Ahh this is one of my favorites. I despise eating out. One dining out dinner can cost the same as groceries for a couple of days. Of course not everyone can do this. I understand that some people don’t have the time to meal prep, or even the skills to cook, or they get tired of eating the same thing everyday. But if you really have the goal in mind of saving money, you should take on this challenge. I dedicate my weekends to grocery shop on a budget and meal prep for myself, Jack, and Jo. And we all eat different foods, so it’s a challenge, and a bit time consuming, but worth saving the money from eating out.

6. Shopping.

I can proudly say I hate shopping. It gives me a headache. I wear the same thing all the time. If I need something, I just go on amazon and call it a day. But if you are the type that loves to go shopping for new clothing, furniture, or anything really, there are lots of resources to help save you a buck or two. Thrift shopping is a good one, buy or sell on craigslist, dollar store, take time to use coupons, there is also events called Clothing Swaps, so you can always find new clothing every week for literally no money at all. You guys know how I bought a new treadmill recently, and I am going to share with you how I funded it lol I literally went through the house, sold items that we no longer needed or no longer used (baby stuff, electronics, or accessories) and saved up enough to buy a treadmill. No shame in my game. We are pros and buying and selling to save money.

7. Budget your entertainment.

It’s ok to invest into a hobby or have fun with money, but try to include it into your budget. You guys know Jack is very much into Crossfit, and monthly fees can add up, but this is his passion, it’s what makes him happy, and he cannot live without it. So this is one of his priorities, and a investment in his health, so we include this in our budget as a necessity. I love doing arts and crafts and sewing, I include that in my budget for fun. Jo is starting to love blind bag toys which can really add up, so we limit her one new blind bag a month. My sister loves going to concerts, but she understands her limit and don’t go to the super expensive ones. So budget your fun.

8. Start planning for Christmas now!

If you are good with your budget, I highly highly recommend you start setting up your Christmas budget and Christmas shopping now! Something about the holidays really give you that spending itch lol. But there are people out there that are still paying off their holiday debt from years ago, which is a real shame. But if you plan your shopping list now, set up a cash only budget, then you can catch good deals now! There are some really good deals all year long, not just around the holidays or Black Friday. I have brand new toys hiding in the closet for the family from Prime Day (couldn’t miss those deals). Don’t wait until last minute. Plan carefully and spend a little each month, so you don’t spend a lot in December.

Be smart with your money, or you will have to work extra hard to pay off those silly mistakes. Thanks for taking the time to read, and hope you guys walk away with some tips on saving money. It’s ok to be a responsible adult 🙂 Take care friends!

xoxo

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Some of my favorite quotes:

A budget is telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.

Live like no one else, so later you can live like no one else.

Don’t spend money you don’t have, to impress people you don’t like.

-Dave Ramsey.

Connecting With a Long Lost Sibling

How amazing is this thing we call life.

Mine just got a little bit more interesting in a beautiful way.

I always knew I had a half older brother (who we share the same mom with but different dad) who lived in El Salvador. But I’ve never met him before, I’ve never talked to him before, nor I have ever seen a picture of him before. I just knew he existed somewhere out there.

My mom lost contact with all of our relatives in El Salvador a long time ago. My mom came to the United States when she was a teenager, around 35 years ago, and left behind her first born son with my grandma to care for.

We are first generation so we have no other blood relatives in the United States. All the family I knew was my mom, dad, my two brothers, and two younger sisters.

So I always wondered about my extended family. Always wondered about my oldest brother, how he looked like, if he still lived in El Salvador or if he ever came to the states. I always wondered.

But a couple of days ago, he found us, through my sister Daniela on Facebook. It is a coincidence because a couple of months ago, I asked my mom for his name so I can try and search for him on social media, but I never had any luck.

Daniela Texted me to let me know, so I rushed to search his name, and added him on Facebook. I couldn’t believe I connected with my oldest brother.

I couldn’t stop smiling while looking at pictures of my brother, grandma, aunties, and cousins in El Salvador! I never knew how they looked liked! It’s funny because I see a physical resemblance in myself with them. It’s truly amazing.

There is a tiny language barrier between us, but that’s okay, he is still my brother, my family, my blood. Hopefully one day we get to meet.

I am so happy we connected Macora F.

This world just got a little smaller ♡

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xoxo

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My Crazy Life As An Air Force Wife

As most of you guys know; I am an Air Force wife, a military spouse, a milso, whatever you guys want to call it. So I wanted to share some insight with you guys about my journey so far as an Air Force wife since we are coming up on 10 years of experiencing this military journey.

I’m going back to when Jack and I were dating in 2007, we had been dating for 6 months, and he brought up the crazy idea to go into the Air Force. My first initial thought was, “heck no, are you crazy?”

I knew nothing about the military, I just thought he was going to be sent overseas to fight in a war and that I was never going to see him again (how stereotypical of me lol). But I just honestly knew nothing about the military, and I didn’t know anyone in the military, I only knew what I saw on tv.

I asked him how did this idea came about? We were coworkers at the time, working at AMC theaters. He said the idea came about as he was positively influenced by a coworker of ours, Vince Padua (hey Vince)! So he scheduled a meeting with a recruiter, and it was history from there.

We eloped after 8 months of dating…yup, just 8 months. We were 18 and 19 years old, basically kids who had no idea what they were getting themselves into. Then he went off to BMT (Basic Military Training) and Tech school.

When I flew to Jacks BMT graduation from San Francisco, I was so nervous! I was so intimidated by the uniforms, the rules, the military lingo, just the whole military environment. It freaked me out! I was scared, it was so foreign to me lol.

But I learned over time that these are just normal people with exciting careers. I guess I was scared because it is a different lifestyle than my typical civilian life in San Francisco, but we are all human. I needed to get over myself, and educate myself.

I packed my belongings up, said bye to my family, bye to my friends, and bye to my job, and headed to our first base: Montgomery, Alabama.

When I heard we were going to Alabama, I was not very excited. I thought to myself, how am I going to do this? I didn’t know anyone, I am a introvert as it is, so socializing and making new friends terrified me. I was stuck at home all alone in our little house on base while Jack went to work. So we decided to get a dog! Two weeks after moving to Alabama, we got Teddy, our golden retriever, who is still thriving today, I wasn’t so lonely anymore.

I awkwardly made my first friend, Jennifer W. a military spouse, and my neighbor at the time (we still talk today). Making new friends in another state didn’t seem so scary after all. 10 years later, I am proud that we know lots of people in different places all over the world. Us military wives share a special bond that I don’t share with my civilian friends, us military wives just get each other. We’ve even made lasting friendships with people who are not affiliated with the military at all too.

I did have my moments of home sickness. There were many days where I cried to Jack that I miss my family and missed my life in SF. Many days I cried in the shower. I would say it took me about one year to really adjust to this new military lifestyle. Now, this is all we know. When we visit family I can’t wait to get back to our little military life we’ve built together.

Jack got his first deployment duty in 2010 and that was a experience. Being away from Jack for 7 months was very hard. We were so young and in love and missed each other so much. But he deployed a few more times over the next 10 years and is always away for business (TDY’s) that now we are so use to being away from each other. It doesn’t bother us anymore, it is apart of our life now. One day he’ll say, “I’ll be gone for 30 days” and I’ll be like, “Okay see you when you get back!” Crazy, right? We just go with the flow.

I am also able to adapt to new situations faster than I ever did before. I have learned a lot over the past 10 years. I know I am not the same person I was 10 years ago, nor is Jack. We grew together, grew together into the people we are today. One thing about having a successful marriage is adjusting to the new person your spouse is turning into, and always supporting them.

Jacks military career has been thriving since the beginning of his journey, and we love waiting on the next big thing whether it’s a promotion, or new duty station. One word of advice he goes by is: you should always try to better your situation, always want more, never settle or you’ll never improve. My man is amazing I tell you.

Now we have a toddler and a newborn, so thinking about our next move do scare me a bit since we do have two young girls, but we just have to go with the flow with whatever this military life throws at us and make the best of every situation.

My advice to you new wives is: avoid the commissary on the 1st and 15th, just understand that you both are making big sacrifices so support each other the best way you can to stay sane, and try not to feel intimidated.

I wouldn’t trade this life for anything and I wouldn’t want to share it with anyone else. I am so blessed to live this life with my best friend, I am thankful every single day you have no idea.

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Hope you all enjoyed reading, I had fun writing this post. Until next time xoxo

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Happy 2nd Birthday Jo! + 12 Things I love about her right now

dsc02771Hello readers!

February 12 was a very special day ♡ My little girl turns the big 2! I cannot believe it! I remember the day she turned 1 like it was yesterday, where has the year gone? No matter how old she gets, she will always be my little 6lb 11oz baby! Since Jo is born on the 12th of February, I decided to write 12 things I love about her right now!

  1. When I walk into the room, she looks at me and says, “Hi boo!”
  2. Her favorite fruit is apples, I can never keep them in the house!
  3. She is a fashionista! She loves to pick out her own outfits!
  4. She loves to be helpful, especially since mama can’t pick up anything from the floor anymore (Pregnant people problems).
  5. Bath time is her favorite time of day!
  6. She is becoming a little clean freak (like daddy!)
  7. Whenever we are out in public, she likes to say Hi and Bye to everyone.
  8. Her eyes light up whenever we say the word, “playground.”
  9. She has a genuine love for all animals! I think her favorite animal are cats right now.
  10. She is scared of all things insects, especially spiders! Just like mama.
  11. I love how she calls broccoli, “green candy” whoops!
  12. She loves to laugh, dance, and soaks up knowledge like a sponge!

Thank you all for reading as always, everyone have a great day! xoxo

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Monday Motivation (Feb 6, 2017)

If someone came up to you and told you they don’t like you, who has the problem here? Not you!

You are not going to please everyone in life that you approach. You can be the same exact person to two different people, but one may like you, and the other may not. But that’s ok, that’s life. Everyone will view you differently, everyone has different views, that’s what makes all of us different.

Just be yourself, don’t try too hard, and ignore the unnecessary bull. That will make you a stronger person at the end of the day.

xoxo

Why my husband and I don’t buy each other Valentines day gifts

valday-1I questioned whether or not to write this blog post, but I figured, hey! This is our life, and it’s our truth.

I follow a lot of other blogs on social media and I have happened to see a pattern of “Valentines day gifts ideas for him or her” and I almost wanted to create one, just because I thought it was a cute idea. But then I thought, wait a minute, Jack and I don’t even buy each other anything for Valentines day, so why bother. That wouldn’t be true to myself.

The main reason we don’t buy each other gifts is simple: minimalism.

I am not against Valentines Day at all, I love celebrating all holidays. I will have two girls who I would want to embrace and celebrate each holiday when they grow up. I guess what I am trying to say is, we are just bad for the economy when it comes to gifts lol.

Jack and I have been married for almost 10 years. We’ve been through our fair share of fancy Valentines days, with the big expensive gifts involved. But come spring time, while we are doing our yearly spring cleaning, these things just end up getting donated. They are either collecting dust or just never being used. And that money we spent, we could have saved.

It really makes you think. So over the years, we realized, we don’t need to prove our love for each other with gifts. A nice simple dinner is fine with us, nothing special.

Jack and I learned to just appreciate each other, appreciate the things we have, and make smart money choices while doing so. We learned to not care about material items, and focus on not having any clutter in the house. This is what brings Jack and I together lol sounds silly I know. We just love not buying each other gifts.

It is very easy to get caught up with social media and get influenced by how everyone else is celebrating a certain holiday with their loved ones. And I’m not knocking anyone down for how they celebrate it with each other, you do you. It’s just not our thing anymore.

Just wanted to share since the thought was fresh on my mind. Thanks for reading as always!

xoxo

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Mommy Ramblings: Weekends

Happy Monday to my readers! And happy Chinese New Year of the Rooster!

Just some Monday ramblings from this mama as I have my coffee and Jo is enjoying her breakfast while watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. I try very hard to stay away from blogging and social media during the weekends because, in my family, the weekends are all about family, fun, and catching up on errands. But I am going to get back into weekend recaps for Monday blog posts to share more of our lifestyle on my blog.

One of my goals for 2017 is to blog more, so I’ve been learning new ways to accomplish that with this hectic mommy life, but it’s achievable! I do love blogging.

Nothing special this past weekend, it was a Bates Motel binge fest on Netflix! This show is super good, can’t believe I haven’t watched it sooner. It is starting to be addictive and I have a feeling it is going to make the rest of my pregnancy go by super fast haha. 34 weeks by the way, and still no baby name yet!

Anyways, this is it for Monday! Thanks for reading as always. Have a great and productive week!

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