As most of you guys know; I am an Air Force wife, a military spouse, a milso, whatever you guys want to call it. So I wanted to share some insight with you guys about my journey so far as an Air Force wife since we are coming up on 10 years of experiencing this military journey.
I’m going back to when Jack and I were dating in 2007, we had been dating for 6 months, and he brought up the crazy idea to go into the Air Force. My first initial thought was, “heck no, are you crazy?”
I knew nothing about the military, I just thought he was going to be sent overseas to fight in a war and that I was never going to see him again (how stereotypical of me lol). But I just honestly knew nothing about the military, and I didn’t know anyone in the military, I only knew what I saw on tv.
I asked him how did this idea came about? We were coworkers at the time, working at AMC theaters. He said the idea came about as he was positively influenced by a coworker of ours, Vince Padua (hey Vince)! So he scheduled a meeting with a recruiter, and it was history from there.
We eloped after 8 months of dating…yup, just 8 months. We were 18 and 19 years old, basically kids who had no idea what they were getting themselves into. Then he went off to BMT (Basic Military Training) and Tech school.
When I flew to Jacks BMT graduation from San Francisco, I was so nervous! I was so intimidated by the uniforms, the rules, the military lingo, just the whole military environment. It freaked me out! I was scared, it was so foreign to me lol.
But I learned over time that these are just normal people with exciting careers. I guess I was scared because it is a different lifestyle than my typical civilian life in San Francisco, but we are all human. I needed to get over myself, and educate myself.
I packed my belongings up, said bye to my family, bye to my friends, and bye to my job, and headed to our first base: Montgomery, Alabama.
When I heard we were going to Alabama, I was not very excited. I thought to myself, how am I going to do this? I didn’t know anyone, I am a introvert as it is, so socializing and making new friends terrified me. I was stuck at home all alone in our little house on base while Jack went to work. So we decided to get a dog! Two weeks after moving to Alabama, we got Teddy, our golden retriever, who is still thriving today, I wasn’t so lonely anymore.
I awkwardly made my first friend, Jennifer W. a military spouse, and my neighbor at the time (we still talk today). Making new friends in another state didn’t seem so scary after all. 10 years later, I am proud that we know lots of people in different places all over the world. Us military wives share a special bond that I don’t share with my civilian friends, us military wives just get each other. We’ve even made lasting friendships with people who are not affiliated with the military at all too.
I did have my moments of home sickness. There were many days where I cried to Jack that I miss my family and missed my life in SF. Many days I cried in the shower. I would say it took me about one year to really adjust to this new military lifestyle. Now, this is all we know. When we visit family I can’t wait to get back to our little military life we’ve built together.
Jack got his first deployment duty in 2010 and that was a experience. Being away from Jack for 7 months was very hard. We were so young and in love and missed each other so much. But he deployed a few more times over the next 10 years and is always away for business (TDY’s) that now we are so use to being away from each other. It doesn’t bother us anymore, it is apart of our life now. One day he’ll say, “I’ll be gone for 30 days” and I’ll be like, “Okay see you when you get back!” Crazy, right? We just go with the flow.
I am also able to adapt to new situations faster than I ever did before. I have learned a lot over the past 10 years. I know I am not the same person I was 10 years ago, nor is Jack. We grew together, grew together into the people we are today. One thing about having a successful marriage is adjusting to the new person your spouse is turning into, and always supporting them.
Jacks military career has been thriving since the beginning of his journey, and we love waiting on the next big thing whether it’s a promotion, or new duty station. One word of advice he goes by is: you should always try to better your situation, always want more, never settle or you’ll never improve. My man is amazing I tell you.
Now we have a toddler and a newborn, so thinking about our next move do scare me a bit since we do have two young girls, but we just have to go with the flow with whatever this military life throws at us and make the best of every situation.
My advice to you new wives is: avoid the commissary on the 1st and 15th, just understand that you both are making big sacrifices so support each other the best way you can to stay sane, and try not to feel intimidated.
I wouldn’t trade this life for anything and I wouldn’t want to share it with anyone else. I am so blessed to live this life with my best friend, I am thankful every single day you have no idea.
Hope you all enjoyed reading, I had fun writing this post. Until next time xoxo